How to tell a girlfriend she needs help

by Mark
(Illinois)





I recently started dating a woman whom I really like and am physically attracted to. I haven't met someone with so much promise for a longer-term relationship in a long time. The only problem is she has a very bad halitosis problem.

Last night we had our 4th date and the problem is still there as it was on date numbers 1,2 and 3. I wanted to let it go to see if it was just a situational/temporary thing, but I can now see that it is a chronic problem. We have become more intimate at this stage (more passionate kissing) and I can hardly stand locking lips with her.

After last night's date, she may have sensed that I was a bit hesitant to kiss her for very long but I still didn't mention it to her,

The worst part is she obviously has no idea her breath is so repulsive. She even told me she ended a former dating relationship because the guy had really bad breath!!! Talk about being clueless. The odor reminds me of old green olives...(yuck). The odor is quite strong and can be detected outdoors from about 3 feet away and even in a breeze!

Now I don't want to stop seeing this girl over something that can be cured. I don't know her well enough to know how she would react to me telling her straight out. I do know this will end our relationship hopes if it does not get fixed. She had really beautiful straight, white teeth and she talks about carrying floss with her at all times and she uses a Sonicare toothbrush at home.

I think her problem is not dental related.

Any advice will be very much welcomed.

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Aug 22, 2009
Bad Breath Help Is Here!
by: Gary

Dear Anonymous,

I think I can help with that bad breath problem. First read my article, Fourteen Guidelines To Help You Prevent Bad Breath. Next you'll want to place an order for TheraBreath Toothpaste and Oral Rinse". Use them regularly, at least twice a day, three times a day if possible.

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I hope this information helps and that you're able to get everything back in balance.

Best regards,
Gary

Aug 21, 2009
BAD BREATH HELP
by: Anonymous

I have very bad breath, and it can be smelled at lease 40 ft away. I don't know what to do about it. It smells so bad that when I come from work and I speak to my wife, she says that it makes her want to vomit. I went to the dentist, but they said there is nothing wrong with my mouth. So I went to the doctor, and they said there is nothing wrong with my body. But there is something wrong! Is there any way that you can help me? I will appreciate it. This problem is very depressing, so PLEASE HELP ME.

Jul 25, 2008
My Suggestion
by: Gary

Hi Mark. I'm sorry it's taken me so long to get this posted. Usually, I get an email to let me know when someone posts, but that didn't happen this time.

It sounds like your girlfriend's bad breath has you stuck between a rock and a hard place. I think the solution is simple even though it might not be easy to do. You need to tell her. You're going to break it off with her anyway if the situation doesn't change, right?

The impression I get from your post is that she's a keeper and that this relationship is worth preserving. So, break it to her gently and compassionately. Start by telling her that you have something to tell her which may hurt her feelings and that you're sorry if it does, but you care about her and feel that it's something she would want to know.

Once you've talked it out, help her get a hold of TheraBreath Oral Rinse and Tooth Gel. She can use this link to order or go to most any local pharmacy such as Walgreens or Rite Aid for faster acquisition.

When you discuss the problem with her Mark, make sure you're ready for her response. I'm not talking about how upset she might become. You see, we don't always know how our own breath smells to those around us. It's always possible that she might have similar news for you. ;-)

In the event that things don't go well when you tell her, you'll know that you tried and that one way or the other, it was going to be time to move on.

I hope this helps. Please post back and let me know things go. Good luck!

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